11.10.08
Posted in Business Building, Entrepreneurship, Time Management
at 9:15 pm
by Anita Bruton
I’ve been doing a lot of serious thinking lately about getting back to business. I sorely miss developing my business, keeping occupied with something so exciting and great as building my legacy and just having the contact with other like minded individuals here on the wonderful world of the Internet.
With the three grand children coming to live with us, that all changed and business became something of a lost dream for the past few months. Honestly, I didn’t know which way to go. Part of me almost resented the fact that I was now suddenly responsible for the care of three innocent little children. I thought that part of my life was a thing of the past, and that my future was in my business.
I sit here now, tonight, at my computer, trying to write this with a fussy, teething, eight month old on my lap while her brother, the two year old munches down a PB&J sandwich before bed. The almost four year old (the one with leukemia) is asleep on the couch after a day of not feeling well.
Is it possible to build a business with chaos in the house? I want it to be so. I have to believe it is so. I need it to be so. And I need someone to tell me it can be so!! (Besides my greatest supporter, my husband).
Where will the time come from? When can I possibly squeeze in the time I need to work on my business? I don’t know the answer yet. This is coming from someone who once woke up at 6 AM and hit the computer full speed ahead until noon, then again from 4 PM to 10 or 11 at night, six or seven days a week! Sometimes more!! Now, I wake around 7 AM to the sounds of an infant playing in her crib, sometimes peering over her rail at me and other times screaming for me to get my butt up and out of bed!
From there, it’s non stop kids! Change her, change him, feed them, change her, change him, dress her, dress him, dress the other him, stop and sigh, start again, and so it goes til 7 or 8 at night when the youngest two are in bed. Then it’s ’snuggle time’ with the oldest one who needs some special TLC from Grandma. Some nights I’m not sure which one of us falls asleep first, me or him? Some days I may actually find time to kiss my husband good morning!
Then there’s all the trips to the Childrens Hospital for lab work and chemotherapy at the clinic as well as the visits with the kids moms and their dad. Two mom’s, two days a week EACH! Well, that’s another story!
With all that being said, this post isn’t so much about is it TIME I make business part of my life as it is where will I find the time?
Anyone have an extra hour or two they aren’t using to throw my way?
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10.23.08
Posted in Uncategorized
at 11:57 am
by Anita Bruton
Hello all!
I have been in a kind of hiding for the past few months and I wanted to take a couple of moments to let everyone know what’s been happening and why I haven’t been around.
I’ll make this a short story as best I can and hopefully I’ll find time to blog about it and give a few more details.
It’s been a crazy time for me since I moved in July. On July 26th, my husband and I took our grandson, Desmond, age 3 to Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin where he was diagnosed with leukemia. He was hospitalized for about two weeks. He went home on August 7th with his mother.
On August 6th, we were given placement of two of out other grandkids, Cameron age 20 months and Aliyah age 6 months. (At the time that’s how old they were). On August 14th, Desmonds mother failed to show up on time for his chemotherapy and procedure at the Oncology clinic. Additionally, she went ahead and fed him breakfast which he was not to have prior to his procedure. This failure on her part along with some other things gave our Social Services department cause for concern and removed him from her care on the 15th of August, placing him in our care.
All this means that my husband and I have the three kids living with us and it appears that this will be going on for quite some time. ( I won’t bore you with the details as to why).
In the meantime, things are crzily hectic for us. I am fighting to find a way to get childcare for the two younger ones so that I can try to work on my business. My business has been put on hold for the past few months.
Desmond goes to clinic anywhere from one to three times a week. He’s doing pretty well and is in remission. We are thankful he’s doing so great, but he is still receiving chemotherapy and will be for the next eight months. Desmond isn’t able to attend daycare or headstart at this point and he misses his friends from daycare terribly. In addition, his brother, Anthony has been placed with his paternal grandmother as well. The boys see each other twice a week now. Desmond is very much aware of his ‘kemia’ as he calls it. In his words he fighting the bad bugs with good bugs (the chemo). He could tell you all about his medications, procedures and what’s going on with him. He will be four on December 27th and I thank God that he will be here to celebrate Christmas and his birthday this year.
Cameron is having a very difficult time making adjustments to his new living arrangements. The poor boy has been bounced around from house to house, with and without his mother and he doesn’t understand what’s going on. He’s finally starting to come around after almost three months of living with us. Cameron will be two on November 17th.
Aliyah is such a little doll. She’s a very happy, loveable child and has been crawling since two weeks after she was placed in our care. She’ll be walking by Christmas I do believe and her cute smile lightens my heart! She will be one on February 25th!
Anyway, I love my grandkids and I am glad I am able to take care of them. However, it’s been very stressful and our home is a very busy one. We have the two moms coming for visists twice a week and my son (who is dad to all three) joins them at times and pops in occasionally at other times as well. In addition, Desmond’s therapist visits once a week and the home nurse is here Friday, Saturday and Sundays for an hour or two to administer his chemotherapy. We also have regular visits from the two social workers involved with the cases. Then there are the court dates as well.
Sigh…so when do I find time for business???? I haven’t been lately. Things are just so manic! By the time the kids are in bed I am exhausted. My health isn’t the best either between my diabetes and hign blood pressure and all the complications of having had diabetes for almost 25 years. It wears me out!
I didn’t plan on parenting again at the age of 45!
I’m sure I’ve upset some people. I was just beginning to see success in my business when all this was dropped on me. I owe some clients some results. I hate the fact that things got so out of control.
I haven’t kept up with my subscriber list as of late and to be honest with you, I have some catching up to do on payments.
I’m not certain what direction to take at this point. I want to continue to build my business and I will do so, although it will have to be on a much smaller scale. I am hoping to eek out 10 hours a week to work on my business. I have some ideas of what I want to do, but nothing in concrete much less in ink yet!
I just wanted to pop in today and let you know what’s up and why I haven’t been around.
I haven’t forgotten anyone and I will be active again very soon. If you are one of those I ‘owe’, please accept my apologies and give me some time to get things together and I will take care of you!
I’m a very ethical person and I certainly didn’t plan on ’screwing’ anyone over and I won’t be doing that. I assure you of that!
Thanks for understanding!
Anita Bruiton
Anita’s Proffessional Writing Services
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